What If Everything You Know About Relationships Is Wrong?

"What If..."?

…you and your partner lived without jealousy or possessiveness?

…you could be fully in your sensual self without being owned by your sexual desire?

…you and your partner were able to explore your fantasies and insecurities in a safe space, without judgment?

…you could be radically accepted as you are?

…you finally overcame that broken heart/past relationship trauma?

..you felt as drawn to your partner as you did the first day you met?

…your relationship/marriage could be more honest and exciting than you ever thought possible?

Whether you’ve been married for twenty years, embarking on a budding love relationship, or happily single, our What If workshops are designed to help you access deeper and more authentic versions of yourself and your partner(s) – expanding your capacity for real intimacy and opening up new realms of community and experience.

If you are committed to exploring your full potential in love and play, the What If retreat experience is a great way to get started. Click below to learn more about upcoming offerings.

". I came to learn so much about myself and my partner at the What If retreat. I was able to identify what turns me on and what I’m put off by and communicate that effectively. I experienced plant medicine for the first time in a safe, controlled environment. I felt a strong sense of community and was able to enjoy sexual freedom in a way that I hadn’t before. I highly recommend doing a “What If” weekend. It’s a great way to come out of your shell and enjoy parts of yourself (and others) that are typically reserved. I’ll definitely be back."

Brandi

"What If You Could Actually Conquer Jealousy?" Retreat Participant

“Lea and Dov create a positive and safe space to encourage vulnerability, healing and plenty of fun and sexy times. The property offered a beautiful and serene environment to disconnect from the world in order to reconnect with one another. We had a memorable experience, which has reignited a spark for us...”

Linh & Jon

"What If You could Rediscover..." Retreat Participants

Our Services

We offer a range of intentional activities and experiences designed to help participants better understand their own desires and needs, as well as those of their partner(s).

From breathwork and bodywork, to nature walks and lake swims, to guided sensuality exercises, a variety of group and individual exercises are aimed at breaking down preconceptions, improving communication, fostering fantasy, challenging definitions of intimacy, strengthening the bond between partners, and introducing concepts of sacred sexuality . By taking part in the What If weekend retreats, couples learn to better communicate their desires and boundaries with one another, explore new avenues for sexual pleasure, and create the framework for safe and fun exploration of new areas of intimate connection. Singles gain a deeper understanding of potential relationship structures that work for them, and learn to cultivate a more positive and fulfilling sexual connection with future partners.

"What If" Weekend Retreats

Immersive experiences, set on a beautiful estate in the Western Catskills (less than two hours from New York City), as well as magnificent settings in Cartagena, Colombia, Park City, Utah and Niagara, Ontario. Address the taboo, release shame and insecurity, overcome relationship trauma, explore alternative relationship structures, experience plant-based medicine, sacred sexuality and more. (Unless otherwise indicated, each weekend retreat goes from Friday @ 7pm until Sunday @ 3pm, and attendance is limited to 5 couples and up to 4 singles.)

"What If" Mini-Retreats

A day-long program distilling the inner work and outer exercises of our What If Weekends. Designed to serve couples and singles who are relatively new in their journey of exploring the realms of alternative relationship structures and sacred sexuality, the Mini-Retreat offers a great introduction to ethical sex-positivity in a safe, no judgments space. (These workshops go from 2pm-midnight on Fridays or 10am-9pm on Sundays, and are held at our Catskills retreat site or in a luxury apartment on Manhattan’s Upper East Side.)

Individual Consultations

Facing a relationship crisis? Want to improve communication and spice things up in the bedroom? Need advice on navigating alternative relationship structures? We offer individualized consultations for both couples and singles, in person and via Zoom. Dive deeper into specific intimacy and sexual questions, challenges, and desires, and leave with individualized action plans. We will always meet you wherever you are on your intimacy journey, with no judgments. (In-person consultations are available at both our Catskills retreat site, in Manhattan, and elsewhere by appointment.)

What If Catskills Retreat Site

Our immersive weekend retreats take place on a beautiful and private 60-acre estate in Loch Sheldrake, NY, less than two hours from any of the New York City boroughs. Set on three private bodies of water, with walking paths, a 20-foot tall fireplace, an indoor pool, an outdoor fire pit, and both a jacuzzi and a star-gazing pod to enjoy the night sky, the What If retreats occur in an environment conducive to opening the heart, mind and body.

What Dov and Lea are doing here is creating a parallel structure in which they are curating an expansion of the human potential for love, acceptance and radical honesty.

Sean

"What If You Could Rediscover..." Retreat Participant